Getting in touch with our true Self is very important to determine who we are and be grounded in driving our life. How can we achieve this?
“One of the best ways to get in touch with your real self is to notice those things that you tend to passionately dislike in others” say James and Claudia Altucher in ‘The Power of No‘.
Thus, instead of trying to find a mirror to reflect who we are, we should maybe rather seek to identify what repulses us to really identify what makes us unique.
This method is quite powerful but requires certainly some subtlety. First it is not recommended to hand around too long with people you dislike. Second, some aspects that we dislike in others might not always be that obvious, and might require some research and further getting to know the person.
Situations where we have to be with people we moderately or passionately dislike, like some social or professional situations, are thus great opportunities to define ourselves better! By defining ourselves as the contrary of some behavior that we do not like, our own identity gets better defined every time it happens.
The next time you react negatively to some other person behavior, think about how this defines yourself better.
