In the book ‘Difficult Conversations‘ written by members of the Harvard Negotiation Group, the authors state: “We believe a major reason change efforts so often fail is that successful implementation eventually requires people to have difficult conversations. The ability to manage difficult conversations effectively is foundational to achieving almost any significant change.”
It is quite true that real change – either personal or at the level of an organization always require to address existing issues in an open and straightforward manner, while making sure the people involved still listen. It is about holding the adequate tough conversations. And it is unfortunately rare to find people who have the skill and courage to hold these conversations.
The authors add: “With everyone taking for granted that their own view is right, and readily assuming that others’ opposition is self-interested, progress quickly grinds to a halt. Decisions are delayed, and when finally made they are often imposed without buy-in from those who have to implement them. Relationships sour. Eventually people give up in frustration, and those driving the effort get distracted by new challenges or the next next big thing.” Such is the recipe for failure of change efforts.
Don’t follow this recipe; instead, learn to hold difficult conversations in an effective and productive way. In a few minutes you can change people, one by one; or the entire world if needed.