We should avoid moralistic judgments. And when one is uttered it also says a lot about the person who says it: “All moralistic judgments, whether positive or negative, are tragic expressions of unmet needs” writes Marshall Rosenberg.
This is why whenever we surprise ourself to speak out a moralistic judgment, it is a clear indicator that we should seek which of our needs is not met.
And conversely when someone else expresses it, we need to overcome a possible rejection and figure out which of their needs requires fulfilling.
Moralistic statements are indicators of needs unmet. Let’s focus on the needs and not so much on the contents of the statement.
